12 step program dating

Our work to understand ourselves can be undermined or become convoluted if our efforts are distracted by a budding romance.New romances are not only distracting they can quickly become all-consuming.

Dating in the program is like fishing in a small toxic pond.

Healthy Recovery, Healthy Relationships Most recovering addicts aren’t strangers to therapy and, as a result, have spent a lot of time working on themselves and their relationships.

They have learned critical relationship skills, including how to identify, process and communicate their emotions and to set personal boundaries while respecting the lines drawn by others.

The advice to not date or become involved with someone intimately during early recovery is a frequent point of resistance.

People involved in 12-step programs often rely on the “one-year rule” for guidance.