Even if you’ve been married to an individual for most of your adult life, if you are being treated the way the woman in No Longer Dead was being treated, you haven’t had a relationship. A Narcissist absolves themselves from relationship responsibilities before they engage with another individual.A narcissist doesn’t have relationships; he or she merely has mirrors.Still, when we’re in the middle of it, it’s difficult to step outside the fishbowl and peer in.Objectivity seems to be the lowest on our list of priorities, with survival of a relationship that being our top priority.Their explanation is that if a newly sober person does not practice the 12 Steps then they are essentially a walking time bomb and will soon fall off of the wagon and begin drinking again.I have linked here to the Orange Papers about AA dogma because I believe the OP cuts through all of the bullshit that AA presents as fact. Our relationship has been a very positive one thus far. I have been dating a recovering alcoholic/substance abuser for a little over 1 year- he is 8 years sober.
Are they getting some form of treatment, or are they not drinking, yet continuing the same behavioral patterns as when they were intoxicated (dry drunk? Can you be strong for the good days and the bad days? Generally, alcoholics do not like having alcohol around the house, nor do they go to bars. Sober close to three years, have worked the program for almost a year.
All we know is that nothing we do seems to be good enough; everything is our fault; we are crazy.
Nothing is wrong with the narcissist and he or she makes it very clear to us that are the problem.
When I try to initiate it, he says he is tired or he just ignores my advances.
Last week we spoke about frequency of sex in order to be satisfied. I communicated that I need more physical intimacy in order to be satisfied and asked if anything was wrong and if he was attracted to me.